QUESTION OF THE WEEK: You feng shui’d my home a while ago, and asked me what side of the bed I slept on. Your answer as to why was interesting, but I’ve forgotten the details. Would you answer it in your column? I think your readers would find it fascinating!

Thank you! I would love to. Readers, on which side of the bed do you sleep? Think back to the various homes you have lived in. Did you favor a particular side of the bed, or did the area you favor change with each move? Do you ever wonder what side of the bed is “best” to sleep on?

My informal findings


Interestingly, I have noticed that symbolism is involved in what side of the bed you sleep on. Although I didn’t officially learn anything about bedside positions when I was studying feng shui, over time, I took notice, and my informal findings have been quite consistent from home to home.


Closer to door, more responsibility

It seems that the person sleeping closest to the door is the “protector” of the home and feels a bit more “in charge,” or “in control.” That person seems to take more responsibility for the home and is energetically more in tune with it. This does not mean that the person farthest from the door does not care, just that the one who sleeps closer to the door has a stronger sense of “home-protector” energy.

I even read that those who sleep on the left side of the bed are more cheerful and positive, while those who sleep on the right make more money. In either case, gender is irrelevant.

My side, your side


Sometimes people get accustomed to sleeping on a certain side of the bed, and when they move to a new home, they sleep on the side they’re used to, even if the position of the door has changed.

Sleeping on a different side may help

When a couple shares that their relationship has stagnated, or become routine, I sometimes suggest that they each sleep on a different side of the bed for a week. Even if you sleep alone, you likely tend to gravitate toward one side or the other. You may find that changing positions shifts your perspective just enough, so that you see a new way to break out of a limiting situation in your life. If you are up for some change, sleep on a different side of the bed tonight.

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